Women With This Sort Of Thinking Are Rare
The following is lifted from a readers submission to a Thai related website. When I read it I thought to myself, ‘I like this guys wife’s way of thinking’. If only more women had this outlook then divorce courts would be doing a two day week.
Note to other half – read carefully! Read it twice if necessary, this way of thinking will get you that platinum card with your name on it, just like you always wanted.
I love my Thai wife to ‘bits’. And one of the many reasons is because of understanding, honesty, and there being a complete absence of control and dominance. We live in Singapore. It happens that we are not that far from a red-light district. But I come home every day on time and my Friday and Saturday evenings are spent with my wife, not out drinking at bars nearby.
In fact in 4 years here I have been out alone to the nearby bars just once. However, on the other hand, when we go to Bangkok we both like a massage.
Sometimes we go to a massage shop together. Sometimes I go to one of the massage shops known to offer ‘extras’. My wife is well aware and does not make it a problem. She always has two words of advice. “Be safe”. But if I have a young girl without clothes giving me a massage all over she accepts it.
And you know what? Because of that understanding and freedom I love her all the more. It makes our relationship all the more stronger. On my side I spend time with her, respect her, tell her if I am going to a ‘suspect’ massage shop, and such activity is restricted to the 4 or so trips each year to Bangkok, and does not become part of day-to-day or week-to-week life.
I have asked her if she feels like a massage from a young man. But she is not interested. Her interest is handbags! So we have a cupboard full of handbags and she is happy. And once in a while in Bangkok I have a ‘fun’ massage and I am happy. And we have a fantastic relationship and as sure as you can be about anything in life, I believe I can grow old with her.
Different things will work for different people. But the fundamental must always be 100% honesty, communication, understanding, acceptance, and tolerance. And to all the woman out there, let your man be a man just once in a while – he will love you all the more for it.
Stickboy Says: Would your wife or girlfriend be willing to accept this type of lifestyle, if it appealed to you?
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Posted on June 12, 2009 | Filed Under Life
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definitely a keeper there mate, if there were more like her around more of us wouldn’t apply the b-word to them as much
So she let’s you play around so easily? Heh, she must have a sexy Asian lover and is only with you for your junk.
I think this is fine if they both agree on it. But I think it’s outrageous for anyone to even suggest to me to let my boyfriend get away with this. I don’t care if he fantasizes about other women or watches porn, whatever. But if another woman comes close to him in any sexual way (besides for a REGULAR MASSAGE, which he gets at home anyways), he can eat the gravel in my driveway. You’re with me because you love me and clearly you enjoy what I do, so why the hell do you need another woman to be touching you too?! Suggest it to me and I might try it.
It might ruffle my feathers a little bit if my boyfriend was fond of receiving massages from a naked young woman besides me, but as long as I knew he was coming home to me and only me at the end of the day, and as long as he didn’t start comparing me to other women, I would be perfectly fine with it.
I honestly think this is one of the most sexist, stupid ideas for a relationship EVER. She lets him fool around if she gets handbags and she NEVER says anything about it? The “complete lack of dominance” bothers me deeply as well, its basically saying that a woman that never wants to speak her mind and stays quiet while her man goes around getting c*** massages from fancy prostitutes is the best kind of woman. As far as I see it I have no respect for her and even less for him.
This may work for some people but not everyone. I know for a fact that it’d never work for me and my girlfriend. If I can’t stand the idea of someone touching her intimately, then I have no right to turn around and do the same thing. It’s pretty simple. Even if she were to say it’s completely fine, and I do it, then she can turn around and change her mind and I can’t say anything about it.
So a true protip for a relationship, don’t do anything you wouldn’t want your partner to do. It’s NOT that hard, guys. And no, bros and brolettes, just because ONE person said they do it and it works, doesn’t mean it’s okay for EVERYONE. This person is not the heterosexual or any orientation) spokesman for relationships. And even if you agree, everyone has to make compromises for a healthy and working relationship.
I’m sure your lady is giving up some her own promiscuity (which is totally okay, ladies) just as much as you are, bros.
Great suggestion, none the less, but if doesn’t work out like that, guys, don’t be a dick, respect the chick. If it means that much to you, go your separate ways so you can go be the manwhore that you are. (And I mean that in a nice way.)